Recently I have been soaking up the teachings of Kim Kiyosaki in the book “Rich Woman”. And just the other day I found an old CD in Craig’s desk drawers of an interview with Robert Kiyosaki, “Rich People, Poor Plan”. I snatched it up and I decided to pop it in my car stereo and listen while making my usual 30 min. drive into town.

In the interview he was explaining the differences between the quadrants. Some of you may know of them, however if you do not, they are E/ S/ B & I; aka Employee, Self-Employed, Business Owner and Investor; to find out more about these quadrants read “Rich Dad Poor Dad”, an absolute must if you are a business owner, self-employed, employee or investor.

Now I have known about these quadrants for years, for as the first time I read “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” was about 5 ½ years ago, right about the time I journeyed into becoming a business owner and starting my first coaching practice; or so I thought I was a business owner…I was simply the E, learning how to be an S.

You know how when you listen, watch or read something more than once, twice or even three times; you pick up different things each time? Well, sure enough that is what continues to happen as I am exposed to Kim and Robert Kiyosaki’s work.

Recently when I had read “The Business School for People Who like Helping People”, I finally realized I had traveled the mindsets from E to S over the last 5 years but was still wavering a bit from S to B. All the while my passion in life was to become a B and, an I.

After completing the 91 day Rubicon Results Program with Pat Finn, something clicked for me and I truly got the mindset shift I was seeking that would shift me from S to B. Let me give you a little background on these two quadrants…

When you are S, aka Self Employed (which by the way is not a bad place to be, simply a choice), you are the only person that can keep the business afloat, you are the Lone Ranger and most S folks are afraid to let anyone else do the work because they feel that others will not get the job done. Here is one more thing, if anything ever happens to you and you stop working, guess what? You stop making money!! It is known that being S is one of the most DIFFICULT quadrants to be in, as well A LOT of hard work.

The difference between S & B; B, AKA business, are the SYSTEMS!! This was the one thing my business coaches kept trying to teach me when I had my Women Into Action Coaching Practice and the Simply Seductress Workshops, however at that time what I constantly struggled with was finding the time, energy and money to build these systems, because I was stuck in the mindset of having DO I T ALL myself; teaching, marketing, teaching, marketing, teaching, and marketing… it seemed those two things along with the consuming admin and trying to have some what of a life, consumed all my time, energy and money. And as we all know, when women are low on energy, what sets in? Depression, low self-esteem and all the other emotional baggage attached with it.

When you are in the B quadrant, you have SYSTEMS and a TEAM working for you and with you. The beauty of being a true Business owner is you can step away from the business and still make money. Why? Because your business will eventually get to a point of generating residual income. And when your systems and teams are running like well oiled machines, you can then consider and explore new business opportunities! Because you now have the time, energy and money to do so!! I LOVE this concept; even if it did take me a few years to learn 

Hence, this is where Investments come into radical play; a topic for another time…

There is the one key pitfall to being a Business Owner that took me years to learn… being a business owner is NOT a “Get Rich Quick” solution. Being a business owner has delayed gratification, not instant. You must build your business one brick at a time. Knowing this and finally accepting it on all levels of my cellular being is what has made my latest career ventures and business choices well worth it. This is a very exciting time and I am so excited for the future!

So where am I going with all of this?

After reading “Rich Woman” which is, as I mentioned a MUST read, and then listening to the “Poor Plan” CD, I was hearing all of the information from a new mindset and a new pair of sunglasses (Thank you Rubicon!). I realized that when I took that big step in investing in World Ventures just a few short months ago; I was actually taking that next step into this new mindset and a new chapter in my career that will forever change my future as I had known it.

Now looking at my World Ventures business, it makes perfect and total sense!! The business model, the business SYSTEMS, and the business tools are all packaged into one simple investment purchase. There was NOTHING I had to spend on marketing, I did not have to build the platform from the ground up, I did not have to build a site; it was all right there in place. I simply needed to buy the key and start the engine…..VaVaVrooom….

From here, I simply keep the engine, tuned, oiled and steam cleaned from time to time. And while doing all this, I keep asking people if they would like to test drive my new vehicle and those that do, they either love the ride or not. Those that love the ride have joined me by investing in their own World Ventures vehicles; and we have been having a blast supporting each other in building our teams!

Does this mean I am giving up on my last 5 years of building a coaching practice? No way!! I am still building a team and get to coach them every day. I’m also simply continuing my education in life, expanding my ideas and thoughts and staying open to what the Universe has in store for me. It is the divine unfolding and the enjoyment of the process that makes it all worth it (and yes, I know that is not always easy to do ;).

While I grow my business’s, I will keep you posted on my continued discoveries and growth and as I continue to build more systems and master each one, well….the skies the limit and I look forward to seeing all of you there with me; building and fine tuning our own systems in life!

Peace and blessings,

Tara

Hi there beautiful souls,

I have recently been working on a really wonderful project, yet it has taken me away from getting to spend much time here.

I just wanted to reach out and say hello to all of you, I am so so grateful for all of your special gifts and talents and your amazing spirits. Without this wonderful circle of unbeliveable powerhouse creators, I'm clear I would not have found the project that I'm working on now.

I'm LOVING all of you, thank you for your continual inspiration and I will be sure to keep touching base as much as I can while creating the now.

So again, I just wanted to reach out and say hello, I'm still here just super focused at the moment :)

Bog Big Big LOVE!!!

Tara

Before the Universe was born
the solitary, infinite, changeless, formless
eternal Tao was.

This Tao gave birth to the Universe
and also to love
that flows in your relationship.
This flowing love binds you and your beloved
to all things in creation
and returns you again to the Tao,
no beginning
no end.

- William Martin
The Couples Tao Te Ching

As you know I have chosen the context of FLOURISH or I AM FLOURISHING for 2008. So I decided to check out what else I could find on-line about "Human-Flourishing" as it is seeming to be called. Basically it boils down to BEING Happy!

So the million-dollar question then is "How does one keep a continual state of Happiness?"

For most this may not be possible, however what is possible is being the state of happiness more so than not being the state of happiness and that is a personal choice as well as a powerful choice. Powerful in terms of learning what it will take for one to give up that trigger in the brain that loves to focus on the "what's not working" and actually seizing that moment and transforming it into a positive. The power is in the practice.

Here are a few interesting articles that I came across....

Happiness & Education
http://www.infed.org/biblio/happiness_and_education.htm

Happy Talk
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2007/jul/03/publicservices

Flourishing with the Positive
http://pos-psych.com/news/doug-turner/20070215106

Don't worry...Be Happy...

When was the last time you asked yourself this question…?

“Am I Flourishing today?” 

Can you remember? Or have you ever? This word has been brought to my attention in the last year by a very good friend and although I had played around with it a bit with other things it never quite took hold. By the way, have you ever played with words to see how they resonate with you? If not, it’s a must do!  At the time I liked the word a lot, I loved the feel, the sound, and the meaning but for some reason it was not sticking to the things we wanted to apply it to; for what ever reason the timing was off. In the year 2007, seeds were still being planted and tended to.

So tonight there I was looking to create my 2008 and I kept asking myself, what is it for this year? What’s the context? What is my theme, my context for all of life and the lives I touch and am touched by?

There I was, tossing phrases around in my head looking for the one to stick and after a few minutes I allowed my mind to soften and be still and within seconds there it was standing out in bold, bright lettering saying “Remember Me?” and I thought oh my gosh! Yes, FLOURISH!! That’s it! That is what this year is to be about, the context of Flourishing. Seeds have been planted, and they have been growing but now it’s time to really allow them to Flourish and grow.

Flourish is such a fun word yet not commonly used, at least not that I had noticed; it has such a fabulous meaning, our Webster version is the following:

Flourish: A period of thriving, to grow luxuriantly, to achieve success and prosper, to be in a state of activity or production, to reach a height of development or influence, to make bold sweeping gestures…

I don’t know about you but I love the fact of thriving and growing luxuriantly. To grow luxuriantly, well you can contextualize that in so many ways however let’s look at it from the perspective of diving into your essence and divinely unfolding the delicious flavor of you.

How yummy would it be to allow yourself luxuriant growth within and to allow yourself to thrive? What would that take to do and what would that be like for you?

I invite you to join me in 2008 and take on flourishing today, tomorrow and the next! 

This vision came to me while writing about this and I wanted to share it with you:

Imagine spreading your wings and soaring to uncharted lands within. Imagine you are standing near the edge of a cliff and on your back are these large beautiful wings that that span about 10 ft on each side of you. There you are spreading your wings as far as they can stretch, opening and closing, opening and closing...then you take that deep, deep breath of relaxation and allow your heart to ground and center. While slowly stepping toward the edge of that cliff, you release all of the thought, fear or concerns that have blocked you in the past. You look out as far as the eye can see and see nothing but a blank empty sky that seems to have neither end nor a beginning. You look below and there is nothing but a vast empty space…

As you open your wings and actually take that amazing step forward and off the cliff… You feel your body free- fall and your heart sink just for a moment… and so you stretch those wings as far as they can reach, you begin to float, fly and soar through the skies. You breath into that feeling of anticipation, nervousness but in the end you know that you are safe in your own arms  and so you begin to create with your thoughts all that you desire for you and for others... and as your long beautiful wings sweep the open skies you look down below and beautiful color and landscape is being applied; all of the growth, love, possibilities and endless dreams begin to appear below you, in front of you and on the sides of you, as your wings sweep and glide through the air the color is applied with such detail, such beauty, such perfection; it is you.

There you are gliding back and forth, sweeping up and down and all around and your whole body takes on this feeling of luxuriant joy, pure ecstasy and total bliss and fulfillment. It is you and your delicious essence unfolding with all of its beauty and fervor, its life, and it’s now. You are creating that precious blank sky with all that is possible and all that you would like to see and create for 2008 and years to come…

To Flourish is to grow wonderfully and beautifully like an incredible flower or tree, won’t you join me in such fun and play this year?

Please do share what bright colors you will paint for 2008…

With all my love,

Tara

 

 

Something I have known for some time about relationships but tend to forget myself is how easy and automatic it is that we generally focus on that which we fear rather than how we can continually add love and contribution to the other.

Have you ever been in a relationship thinking some of the following thoughts:  “Is he going to leave me? Will she be the one that cheats on me? If he finds out how I really am he may not want me, I’m really not good enough, I don’t deserve this” and the random negative thoughts go on and on and on…

I think it’s interesting that these thoughts begin to be the focus of ones existence; they slip from the unconscious right back into our conscious minds. One can also see how this happens in the work environment as well, always in fear of losing the job, the project, the promotion etc. If you think about it, it happens in almost every aspect of our lives.

We as individuals sometimes fall into the gloom and doom trap of humanity and we seem to always be waiting for the other shoe to fall.

In my own relationship with my fiancé, we too fall in these patterns and habits sometimes or can I say traps of thought. The moment something goes awry, our default thought kick-in to high gear, “I know she’s/ he’s going to leave me, I’m not good enough, I’ll never be able to get this right, I might as well give up on the whole thing and just leave”

The fear of leaving or of being left, the fear of being hurt, the fear of abandonment and on and on and on…

These simple yet destructive traps have me stunned and amazed sometimes. I guess because even though you can have many years of  training under your belt and the many books that one may read or coaching and training they may have, those simple little networks of conversations (something I like to call them) slip back in, and *WHACK!!!* back-slap you across the head.

Once when Craig and I were having one of these movements, I had an eye-opening thought, when the words fell from his mouth, for the first time in a long time I could see so far beyond what he was saying. I could see the love standing behind fear, fear standing behind frustration, frustration standing behind anger, anger behind rage and rage behind resignation. It was also in this moment I could see the mirror image of me wondering the same thoughts and then seeing the exact same emotions all leading back to love. I could see our several layers of protection, when in fact all we wanted was to be loved and our heart protected.

I thought to myself “Gosh, the amount of energy we spend in this place of fear wondering all of these horrific thoughts…how glorious would it be if we turned them around to positive thoughts that actually contribute…what if we spent our time worrying about, did I offer enough love and contribution to this person today?”

“Well heck, that’s a thought!”

People spend so much time in the fear of the relationship that they forget what they would like to do to bring the joy and love into the relationship. This I can see stems from past behaviors and the models in which we grew up in. As a culture we have grown up in a fear and scarcity model for some time, when you look back in the days of the depression, our conversations became all about scarcity; people lived in fear of whether they were going to make it through another day, the lack of food, shelter, clothing, and family members. We still live in that mind-set, and the children from that era are still alive today and those networks of conversations have been passed down through the generations and control much of our cultures thought today. They permeate our money habits, our eating habits and even our relationship habits. Simply think of some of the clichés in our conversations: Money doesn’t grow on trees…All the good ones are taken or gone…

So it’s interesting to me how all of this eventually ties in together. We lose focus of the here and now, we get caught up in the daily motions of our day, we fall into comfortable patterns and then lose sight of some of the most important things about our relationships; who this person is, the reasons we chose them and the incredible amounts in which they contribute to our lives in every second and how we would want to be nothing but grateful and purely honored to have such a being in our lives. People sometimes forget these very precious things.

I know for myself, I’m just as human as the next person and yes, I fall into that trap more than I would like to admit. However when I feel its “icky” presence hanging around I stop and ask myself some of the following questions:

What have I learned new about this man today?

It was once told to me that the moment you wake up and think you know someone, is the moment the relationship is over…at this point you have shut off all possibilities of growth for either of you because you have limited them to a tiny box called “I know who you are and I know exactly what you’re going to say and how you will react”.

When was the last time I acknowledged this man?

Authentic acknowledgement is one of the kindest and most empowering ways to someone’s heart. How good does it feel to hear that you are actually making a difference and people notice your efforts? It feels wonderful.

Is my mental and emotional “Fulfillment-Box” full? If not what do I need to do to replenish it?

For me this means, what nurturing acts must I do for myself so that I may feel my cup runnith over again, and only then can I be my greatest self for my partner. Many times we are always looking out there to be fulfilled when in fact it comes from within.

These are just some of the questions I ask myself and from there I like to take the steps necessary to begin getting back on track, so to speak.

I would love to hear what anyone else has to say about this topic. I myself have been reminded of how often these negative contexts for living can be a part of every aspect of our lives, I see so many people relating to one another from a context that is usually one of fear or scarcity. What might you do if you found that your context for living was coming from fear rather than love and contribution? Sometimes it’s so easy to slip back into that place; we barely realize its happening.

Thank you for listening and I appreciate any and all thoughts.

With love

Tara

Hello fellow Zaadz friends...

In my search for more knowledge around what men and women need in the realm of sex, intimacy and self love, I have questions...

I'm exploring the paths that are being set in front of me and of course I need the support and response from others to continue on my journey.

One of the gifts I have is being able to support women in gaining more access to their inner heart, voice, self and power. I have been doing this through coaching and movement classes. It has been an amazing journey however as we expand and change my work is also expanding and changing.

I would love to hear from all of you or as many  of you willing to answer some of the following questions. If you would like you can post them openly or email me privately tara@simplyseductress.com

What I'm exploring is what have you done to find your inner voice, heart or self expression. I'm curious as to how people have taken that on for themselves and what has been there exoerience. Have you felt limitied? Have you gotten stopped and what has it been like for you if you are in a romantic partnership and finding your voice and self within the union of two.

I ask that all of you share as openly as possible, I can only imagine the expressions I'm about to hear and I'm grateful for what ever you choose to share.

I will ask a series of questions and please feel free to answer as many as you can, how ever you would like etc.

What I'm looking for is how have you done it? The importance of it and have you found limits to your expression etc. and what would you like to see happen for yourself.

 

What are the steps to finding self within/ inner voice?

Do you have a voice?

What is your voice?

Have you heard your voice?

Have you ever seen the expression of your voice in the physical, mental or verbal expression (explain)?

Where does this energy lye within your body?

Where do you feel your energy stop or do you?

Where do you experience the block if you have any?

Are you victimized by your blocks?

How have you lead yourself beyond the blocks?

Where does the heart of your soul live and how did you locate it?

What have you recently tried to do to find out how to locate your voice or you heart?
What joyous experiences did you have while on this quest?
What challenges have you faced on your own journey?

As I mentioned I would love to hear from anyone interested in sharing this experience with me.

With much love and respect,

Tara